Now that you know what you can afford, it’s time to decide what goes with you to your new home, and what doesn’t.
As we near the final destination on our path, we’re confronted with another very powerful obstacle — our possessions. Moving from a large home into a retirement community almost always entails down sizing, and it’s here that some of us struggle.
But there’s something cathartic too about letting go of the things we no longer need for this stage of our life. It doesn’t have to be painful. On the contrary, it can be a very healing and energizing process.
One of our favorite psychotherapists, Dr. Bobbe Sommer, has some thoughts on the process that she calls “rightsizing”:
“There was a time when the right size for our life was a three bedroom, two bath home with large yard, on a cul-de-sac and a school within walking distance from our home. It fit our requirements for a growing family. Today, our lifestyle has changed and our goals and desires have changed right along with them.
Rightsizing our lives involves changing the way we live, and how we handle our possessions. An organizational psychologist once noted that the clutter in our environment reflects the clutter in our mind. Scary thought for some of us as we look at the accumulation of ‘stuff’ we have acquired over a lifetime. The point is that we gradually become aware that our stuff begins to own us and not the other way around.
Rightsizing our lives is not just about re-evaluating our stuff but about re-evaluating our thinking. I have had the good fortune to get to know and admire many folks who reside at Front Porch communities. One common theme I hear from them is that it is so wonderful to be able to re-focus their thinking on maintaining their enthusiastic engagement with life rather than maintaining their possessions.
Many of the folks I’ve talked with did not feel deprived of their stuff that they had released, but quite the contrary, felt relieved that they could now shift their focus to being actively engaged with activities of their choosing. Time once spent replacing the sprinkling system pipes is now spent with friends. Energy once channeled on replacing the roof and repainting the living room now can be funneled into creative endeavors with serendipitous results!”
All of our communities have relationships established with moving experts to help you sort, pack, sell or donate the things you no longer need. In addition, many communities offer services to help you sell you home.
So, don’t worry. We’ll walk you through the process every step of the way, and you can have as much or as little help as you wish.
Congratulations! After the life-sizing step, your path is almost complete.